Another myth is the notion that closure exists. A sad realization is that I seem to seek it, even though I know it’s not real. No one can give me closure. They can even say all the things I always wished they had said, and I will still feel empty afterwards, or even worse than before. Why? because nothing can change what happened. Words don’t fix actions. Words don’t fix the past. Why do we seek closure? because we are curious things. we like answers. we don’t like living with the empty void. And not having closure feels like a void in the soul.
The only way to achieve closure is to accept that it’s not real. The present moment is all we can really control, so, i suppose, achieve closure by closing the door to the past.